Dealing with Impotence

Impotence has different meanings for different people. For men or medicine, it is the inability
to achieve or maintain erection; they call erectile dysfunction (ED). For the average lay person. it's when a man "cant get up". But for the more than 100 million men afflicted with the disorder, impotence is simply a curse.
Emotional factors often compound the problem of impotence. Self-esteem is tightly intertwined with virility. Men with impotence frequently think, "If i can't have normal sex with my partner, I'm a failure as a man and a lover" or "Will she leave me if I don't satisfy her?" A common male knee-jerk reaction to avoid the emotional pain is to make excuses or avoid sexual situations with their partners-a desperate attempt to forget the problem. As a result, the woman feels rejected and inadequate within the relationship. She may think, "he no longer finds me attractive" or "Is he having an affair?"
Without meaning to, couples create additional problems of anxiety, depression, grief, embarrassment, anger, shame, and frustration on top of impotence.

To achieve and maintain an adequate erection, three conditions must be fulfilled:

• a certain amount of lust
• s good inflow and outflow of blood
• a properly functioning nerve supply

The penis contains three cylinders of erectile tissue with a network of blood vessels controlled by the spinal nerve. During an erection, the penis becomes filled with blood as the vessels dilate (widen) to allow increased blood flow. Muscles around the vessels contract and prevent blood from leaving, thus maintaining the erection. To ensure good blood supply, several blood vessels run towards the erectile bodies and dense web of small nerve fibers ensure the opening and closing of the right vessels during erection. In very young boys, erections may occur for no obvious reason at all. For young men, erection can achieved almost at will, in fact even while sleeping. But as men get older, the likelihood of impotence increases. impotence is most common male sexual disorder.
Many men -Asian men, in particular-still believe that impotence is a normal part of aging or is 'all in the head'. But impotence is usually not a normal consequence of aging. "It is more likely the result of medical problems that occur at a greater rate as a man ages," psychologist said. Impotence is frequently the first sign of cardiovascular disease, or it may be the first sign of diabetes.. other physical causes of erectile dysfunction includes:

• disease of the erectile tissue of the penis
• pelvic trauma and surgery
• chronic disease
• spinal cord injury
• hormonal abnormalities
• side effects of certain medications
• alcoholism and drug abuse
• heavy smoking

Psychological causes:

• stress and anxiety from work and home
• worry about poor sexual performance
• marital discord
• felling of anxiety and guilt that originated from childhood
• unresolved sexual orientation
• depression

BE A MAN, see a doctor!!!